Alone time.

It’s not so bad to be alone.  No one to tell you what to do, no one to judge you, no one to make our own decisions for you.

It’s good to spend some time alone. This gives you the opportunity to think and explore your inner self.  Do things that you would normally do when no one is home: sing on the top of your lungs, dance around in your underwear, or perhaps get those moments of peace and quiet that you finally deserve to either read a book or meditate.

Yes, if you’ve haven’t had a breath of fresh air within 4 days (…and if you haven’t, walk outside for at least 30 seconds.  some fresh air and vitamin D will do you good.), you may feel slightly bored after a while.  Your little personal raincloud will begin to poor on you, and feelings of despair will come into play.  Phone a friend.  If no one answers, take a walk outside, go out to a movie, go out on a personal shopping spree, go to a park.  Go anywhere that’s busy and full of people, and get away from your home.  Therefore, you won’t feel as lonely, engage in conversation with someone  And this way, you won’t feel confined within the four walls which hold you in.

Loneliness is not always a bad thing.  But if you feel despair out of loneliness, do something about it.  You can.  Don’t deny yourself.

Communication is key.

My friends promised that we’d stay in touch throughout the summer.  We haven’t spoken to each other since.

Pick up the phone, and send a text or make a call yourself.  Don’t be afraid to start the initiative.

You may think, “They don’t want to talk to me.  They have better things to do.  Why should I call them if they never called me?”  What if your friend is thinking the exact same thing?

Communication is key.

Growing up.

Whether you just graduated high school, are getting married, turned 5 years old, are about to have a baby, just got kicked out of your parents house, or simply just waking up the next morning, growing up is something we all have to face, whether we’re ready or not.

Growing up is a bittersweet moment.

Many people don’t want to leave their childhood and their past behind.  It’s very difficult for people to leave behind pieces of their lives, pieces that are cherished deeply, and we don’t want to leave them behind where we will never see them again.

Maybe you’re leaving a certain place never to return, and there’s people that you know you’re never going to see again, and you don’t want to let go.  Well, we do live in the 21st century, where technology is booming.  If you really want to keep contact with these people, do so.  You’ll figure out a method. 

But regardless, these people and moments become memories.  You can take pictures, videos, or write journals and claim that these will last forever.  But it’s not the physical item, it’s the memory itself, forever stored in your heart.  And those will never go away, for they in fact get better with age.  Take these memories, the lessons that you learned, the mistakes that you’ve made, and use them to shape up the person who you will become.  Not an entirely new person exactly, but yourself only with more courage, wisdom, and understanding.

But I feel the real reason why people are so terrified of growing up is because of responsibility.  It’s a big burden that we know we have to face, and we’re not entirely sure if we’re ready for that yet.  And we can’t always prepare ourselves.  Sometimes, we just have to suck it up and see which way the wind takes us.  And that’s the more terrifying thing of all.

Long story short, growing up, leaving stuff behind, and moving on is all a part of life.  But like I said, all of this change helps make you the person you are.  And we don’t have to JUST accept it (and it’s obvious we have to) but reflect on the times and cherish the memorable moments in your heart forever, because that way they’ll live forever.

Why love is so complicated.

I figured this out the other day as I was talking to my friend. 

Many people are so afraid to engage in love because, we never know what the other person is thinking.  And being humans, we don’t want to make a fool out of ourselves and be embarrassed if the other person declines. 

This is why we all wish we are telepathic.  But unfortunately, we’re not so we have to suffer and deal with paying attention to patterns, body language, and just personal aura. 

For example:

There is this guy.  I’ve been friends with him for a long time.  But lately, he’s been acting a little different towards me.  Normally he can be very sarcastic and have a dry sense of humor around people.  He said so himself, “I like to annoy people.”  But later, he said to me “I would never do anything to you.  You’re different.”  Later on he asked me to prom, and I said yes.  I figured, what the hell.  We are friends after all.  Everyone bothers us though now and says we’re a cute couple, and we have to reassure them that we’re “just friends” and nothing more.  On prom night, I don’t think I’ve ever seen him act more like a gentleman towards me.  He still acted like his normal self around everyone else, but not me.  At the end of the night, there was one last dance and the DJ said “Give a hug, give a kiss!” and we both just stared awkwardly at each other for a couple seconds.  Eventually, we just hugged.  I first thought he was just a friend…but I’m not so sure anymore.

In this scenario the girl added up everything and came to the conclusion that he likes her.  But at the same time, he is unsure of what she thinks.  Since she keeps saying that she’s “just a friend”, he’s afraid to go to phase 2, for he doesn’t want to make a fool out of himself.

So even though we can use all of these tools to come to conclusions, we still receive indefinite answers.  Plus at the same time, we might feel like we’re stalkers.

But if all these signs add up to be in your favor, and you feel that there’s a chance of a certain spark, go for it.  After all, “nothing ventured, nothing gained.”

Introduction

Well, here’s a little introduction about this blog.

Many people tend to come up to me and ask me a lot of questions about life and love.  And I honestly don’t understand why people come to me and not someone else.  But for some reason, once they start talking, and I listen, it’s like these words just come right out of my mouth, without even thinking even.

I am seriously amazed at where I come up with this stuff though, because I don’t know where it all comes from.  I don’t have that experienced enough of a life, and I haven’t even been involved in a single relationship.  But for some reason, what I say works.

Maybe it’s because we just need that one person to talk to.  That one little piece of advice.  Life is a very hard journey, with so many twists and turns, it’s hard to know which path to take.  And when it comes to love, it’s one of the most complicated things of all.  But one thing that we all have in common is that we all struggle the same struggles, although they are handled differently.  Life and love aren’t just handed to us.  Although they may be the most complicated and difficult things in the universe handle, they are the two things we strive for most.

So, I have decided that I want to share these words of wisdom with all of you.  Even if no one ends up following, it’s just a good way to track everything down, I guess. 

Sometimes I may just blog silly little pieces of advice, other times I’ll post real-life scenarios, other times I might blog questions I’ve been pondering.  Overall, a question can only be answered by more questions right?  I will try to post at least one post a day, regarding anything about life and love that will hopefully help us all make a little more sense in our lives. 

So hopefully this is the start of something beautiful. 

♥